When You Think You Can't: My Journey to Thirteen Miles

Training for Louisville's Mini Marathon... where do I even START?? I have been regularly going to our local YMCA with my husband for the past year. I never really had any workout goals or anything that I was shooting for, so I pretty much did the same thing every single time: 

-Attempt to run 1-2 miles on the treadmill for some cardio
-A few squats with the bar
-Planking and ab focus
-and honestly...that's it. 

When my friend Lauren asked me a long time ago, I don't remember the time frame at all, if I would run the Mini with her, I laughed out loud. I've never been a 'runner,' and the furthest I had ran in my life was three miles. And then one random day at the gym, I wasn't collapsing after my third mile on the treadmill, so I kept running. I got to mile four, my husband cheering me on next to me on another machine, and the thought entered my mind: "Maybe I could do this?" 

That was in February. I told Lauren that I would attempt an outdoor run with her, (Lord knows I hadn't ran OUTSIDE in YEARS), and I would just see how it went. My goal that day was to go more than four miles, and sure enough, we went six. It was exhilarating. I felt like I had just conquered the WORLD for running that distance. I told myself I'd see how the next FEW runs went, because I didn't want to commit, and fail. 

During that six mile run, my ankles were killing me. I had on a pair of Nike shoes that I had received for a past collaboration, and I knew nothing about GOOD running shoes. I continued to run, and the pain continued. Duh. But I decided to bandit run the first race of the Triple Crown run with Lauren, which was a 5k. (She was already signed up for all three races AND the Mini, but again, I have a phobia of commitment.) I remember we did pretty well, but that we were tired during it. That morning was extra cold and "just three miles" felt like a lot longer. But we kept at our training.

 I decided to visit our local Fleet Feet stores, where professionals sized my feet, watched me run around the store and on a treadmill, and two employees explained to me how bad my ankles pronate. I was super anxious about doing something 'wrong,' and decided to go with a medium support shoe AND a shoe insert, for extreme support. The next day, I ran SEVEN miles. My left knee had started to experience pain before the new shoes, and after the run, it had tripled. I was anxious, and constantly overanalyzing every single move I made. I then ran the second race with Lauren, the 10k, and during it, I actually felt GOOD. My knee didn't hurt, I got tired around the fourth mile but then quickly snapped out of it and we finished strong. I continued to increase my mileage and the day after my 29th birthday I ran nine miles. I learned before this, that I probably didn't need the insert in the shoe, so I had removed that and ran without it. Surely I'd be able to do the LAST race (which would be April 1), a ten miler, right? 

WRONG. The week prior to the ten miler we did our normal training. I had been wearing a knee brace on and off. I had seen a physical therapist at ProRehab who told me I definitely had a minor knee injury, but I couldn't afford to go back. Lauren and I ran 4 miles on a Tuesday and decided to do "just three" Wednesday, but those three involved hills. I had my knee brace on for that one, and as soon as we stopped I felt a loud POP. The pain seared through my left knee and pardon my french, but the word, shit!, screamed in my head. I went about my day as normal, doing chores and playing with the kids...but going up and down stairs was hard. I went to bed Thursday (the next night) and was woken ALL throughout the night due to the pain, which had never happened before. There went my over analytical panic....! All day Friday, back and forth, I went dialoging with my husband, texting friends for prayer, asking my physical therapist friend for advice and ultimately, I knew the answer: "You can't run the ten miler," I told myself. I sat on the kitchen floor and cried, and told myself that I still shouldn't sign up for the Mini Marathon because if I couldn't run ten, Lord knows I couldn't run THIRTEEN. 

I went on vacation with my family and took an entire week off from running. I sincerely doubted that I'd be able to run a long distance again, I was just so freeking scared of permanently damaging my knee. There weren't too many runners I talked with who HAD knee injuries or problems, which instilled even more doubt in my mind--maybe I was doing something wrong? 

We got back from vacation on a Friday and I told Asa I wanted to try to run 7 or 8 miles on Saturday. No one was available to run with me that morning so I set off on my own. I remember after the second mile I realized, "My knee doesn't hurt!" and I wasn't even wearing the brace. I set out and reached the fourth mile; I was tired and my legs felt heavy, but and the house was still four miles away. I made my way home and I hit six miles, seven, EIGHT, and I thought, "I can run my OWN ten miler!!" I texted Asa from my Apple Watch (so cool right?) and told him I needed prayer. "You can do it! Keep running!" he responded. I got to 9.3 miles and was near the house, so I decided to finish at our park. "Can you bring the kids outside to cheer me on?" I texted. Sure enough, they all joined me at the park and my son and daughter and amazingly sweet husband clapped and cheered as I finished my very first TEN mile run. That was when I knew. 

I want to do the Mini. 

 Lauren and I ran a great eleven miles the week before the race, and my body felt so strong. I was pretty much in constant muscle pain; my shins, calves, IT band, thighs, butt, you name it--ALWAYS ached. But not in a dangerous pain. I felt ready! Well, true to my normal self of not checking deadlines far enough in advance, I actually missed the registration for the race. Luckily, there were numerous people who knew friends selling their bibs for the Mini so I pretty easily obtained one. Lauren and I ran three miles Tuesday and another three Wednesday and took Thursday/Friday off completely. My brother and his wife came in to town Friday night to stay with us from Nashville, and I was actually excited to run. "If I can run 11 miles, surely I can run 13," I had been telling myself. And tons of people reassured me of that too! 

The race went from a start time of 7:30am to NINE a.m. due to potential storms. My adrenaline got completely burned up, and I was getting SO hungry. We took selfies at the start line and in my head, I still felt like BECAUSE I had ran 11 miles just a week prior, doing 13 was really not going to be much different. Except it was...the weather was completely different. During my 11 miler, it was cold and rainy and I honestly think that's my favorite to run in. The temps were only increasing by 9 a.m. and it was humid as heck. Literally two miles in, I started to panic. Our miles were quicker than our regular training pace, and I was out of breath, ALREADY. Lauren and her roommate Mary didn't seem phased, and I began to panic even more. Asa and I's friend Tim had decided to also run, and he was keeping in stride with me. I walked through the water stop around mile 5, and I told Lauren to go on. I think she did her best to turn around and check on me, but then I would feel even more guilt for slowing her down when she was doing SO good. The crowd completely overwhelmed me. I think for many people, being surrounded by thousands of individuals is an adrenaline rush? But for some reason it just freaked me out. I looked up and saw MILES of people. "There is NO way you can run THIRTEEN miles," I told myself. We were on the way to Churchill Downs and all I could think was that it was SO far away. I would never get there. It was too hard. I couldn't breathe. I didn't want to do this. By mile six, I literally wanted to give up. 

I remember telling Tim that I didn't think I could do this. I used ALL the water stops as my reason to slow down, walk, and to splash water in my face. I saw my family and kids at mile 9.5 and I just wanted to sob. "I can't keep running, Asa," I said when I saw him. He ran beside me. "Yes you can!" he said. 

It's kind of crazy to me that as I type, I am reliving all of the emotions I had. I am on the verge of crying here, folks. Yikes!! 

Tim and I kept going. At one point I had to stop and tie a shoelace, which also discouraged me. It literally was not UNTIL the tenth mile, when we were nearing downtown Louisville and I could see the sky rises, that I caught my breath and felt like I was in a good rhythm. Tim's knee had been giving HIM problems, and he stopped to stretch it out. I stretched my toes on a pole and told him, "I am fine to go even slower. I didn't sign up for this race to collapse or hate myself or to get sick on the course," and we kept going. I told him that when I had my knee injury, it hurt worse to stop, and he agreed that his was the same. "Just keep jogging," I told him at mile eleven. At that point I was SO relieved, we only had TWO more miles and we would be DONE with this!! We neared the finish line and hit the twelfth mile. "Just ten more minutes," I told myself. "Ten minutes max, and I'll be finishing the Mini." Encouraging words from my supporters started to replay in my head. "Do this for YOU. This is YOUR race. Feel the Lord's presence. HE is with you." 

And then there it was. In all of it's beautiful glory, the finish line. Tim and I looked at each other and smiled, soon I heard the shouts coming from my husband, our kids, and my brother and his sweet wife. I waved and threw my hands in the air. Crossing the finish line I grabbed about four more cups of water, and received my medal. "Keep walking," I told Tim. I thought that because I had felt great after the 11 miles from the last week, surely I'd do okay with this one. 

Wrong again. I saw my daughter Reese on my brother's shoulders and I grabbed her from him and just started to sob. So loudly came the tears and the weeping. "Why are you crying, Mommy?" the kids asked. "It was just really hard, Baby," I said. "Mommy, I missed you while you ran," my son said. "I missed you too, honey." I hugged my friend Lauren who had already crossed the finish line and laughed a little. She had always said she'd be the one to cry once the Mini was done and here I was, just uncontrollably sobbing.

I wanted food, so I started to walk, and I also wanted to poop. (If you're a runner, you KNOW this feeling!!) I headed into a Porta Potty and sat there a while. I started to feel lightheaded and dizzy, weak and just NOT good. I couldn't go and couldn't even PEE (what the heck?!) so I continued my walk towards food. And then it happened. ALL the vomiting. And I couldn't stop...every few feet I had to sit down, puke, and at one point, my husband put me on his back. I puked on a bench, on some trees, on the sidewalk, and once in the car, opened the door at every stop light. And then the chills came and I couldn't stop shaking. I wanted to cry again but didn't even have the strength to do that. My poor brother, who sat in the trunk of our car, and his wife Beth, who sat in between the kids, had to listen to me gagging and barfing the entire way home from the race. (I'm SO sorry, guys!!!) 

Once home I wrapped up in a blanket and said, "I could just die instead?!" Everyone told me I needed to try to drink, and Beth set a timer on her phone to remind me to take a sip every five minutes. I managed to get a five hour energy drink down [hopeful the B12 in it would help replenish me], as well as sprite. Two hours on the couch and I still wasn't able to eat a thing. I tried right after the race but my mouth was so dry and it tasted so GROSS, I just couldn't. Finally I made it my status about Zofran or any other anti-nausea med anyone close by may have. Luckily one of my dear sweet pregnant friend's (also hair dresser) had some and she lives just a couple of miles away. Soon I had taken half a pill, and was at that point nibbling on oatmeal. The kids woke from their naps and I was strong enough to get up and walk. Within minutes I felt strong enough to shower and then the feeling of starvation hit. I was finally craving food and actually felt good enough to go OUT to get it!! 

At the finish line I had grabbed my husband and ugly girl cried into his chest. "Don't EVER let me do this again," I pleaded. Here I am, two days later; my body actually feeling way better than it ever has with ANY of my long runs. And yesterday I think I gained the two pounds back that I had lost in the first 24 hours [eeek, I know] because I had seconds of EVERYTHING from our dinner. And guess what? My husband literally sent me another race signup TODAY, for three races, the last one being a mini marathon in October.  

Not today, Dear. I am not committing to ANYTHING yet for a while...I think I'll have some PTS from this whole thing anyway and I definitely know I'll have a fear of running that long of a distance. 

But I did it. Through all the muscle aches, knee pain, doubt, fear, insecurities, disbelief, and LONG hours spent away from my family training...I learned a lot. I'm stronger than I ever knew I was, and that's saying something because I birthed two babies. I wish the Mini had gone differently for me-that I could have gotten my breathing figured out much earlier on and that I could have actually enjoyed it, but it's done. I ran 13.1 miles and am SO glad that I did. 

I want to thank Tim for running those thirteen miles with me. As one of our very best friends, and the guy who on a drop of a hat, would always be there for us, he definitely proved that to me. And thank you to my friend Lauren who trained with me the whole two months that I did. I'm so thankful for your friendship and am so proud that you literally kicked BUTT during this race! Thank you, Noah, my brother in law, for running my *first* eleven miler with me, and helping me believe in myself when otherwise, I would have just stopped. (And for being such a huge support system period throughout this whole journey.) Thank you Sean, my big brother, for driving to Louisville for the whole weekend. Your support and belief in me means more than you'll ever know. Thank you Beth, my brother's wife, for taking these beautiful photos, and for also ALWAYS believing in me! Thanks, Mama and Dad, for your support from afar. I felt your presence throughout the run and also ran this for you. Thank you, sweet Asa, husband of mine, for loving me, choosing me, supporting me, and being mine. You are an incredible husband and father, and because of you, I finished. 

Photos Courtesy of Bethany Renee Photography

Here's the video my brother Sean with Hey World Productions created. He definitely captured every ounce of my emotion! 

Do You Blog the Bad Days?

Recently I had the GREAT honor of speaking to my dear friend (Tim Burri's) 5th grade writing classes. As our state's BIG standardized test approaches, in preparation he saw that the students may have 'blog' come up as one of their options for an on-demand writing piece. Because he is the best at tooting my horn, Tim asked if I would come present to his classes and give them some more information on what blogging is, and how voice specifically is important while writing. I had the BEST time with those kids, I'll actually write a full post about my experience there later. One of the questions in particular fits my day today JUST perfectly: "What about when you have a bad day?" a boy in the very front row asked. "Do you blog about it?" Several students actually said super quickly, "No!!!" and I kind of laughed.  

"You know what, Buddy?" I replied. "The BAD days are sometimes the best TO write about." 

So here I am, on a Friday afternoon, my head actually splitting, wishing that our morning had been easier than it was. I am not sure what it is about my son being 'almost five' that seems to have changed his disposition so greatly, but oh mercy has it ever changed. Why is it always something? [I know the answer to that: this is life with little kids, period. But still.] Two was pretty much magical for both of our kids [terrible two's was NOT a thing here,] but both sets of THREE had extreme difficulties. My husband and I have always said that four is the magic number, but some days? I'm not so sure. 

This isn't meant to be a "you-know-what-fest," because my son is wonderful. And I think 95% of the time, he is the sweetest soul. He is considerate, gentle, sensitive, thoughtful, funny, loving, creative, intelligent, he is everything good. But lately, many of his moments are spent being argumentative with me. I feel like I am constantly trying to help him re-word his phrases, to ask for things in a kinder way, and to explain to him when he asks, "why?" that it's BECAUSE I SAID SO! 

Didn't you hate that phrase?! Yet, it seriously comes out of my mouth more times than I care to admit. There is only SO long that you can try to have a rational conversation with a four-year old. Or three-year old. And I'm guessing with a ten, eleven, thirteen, sixteen, eighteen-year old? [Parents of older children, feel free to fill me in in the comments below. Mom, I'm guessing you have a thing or two to say here? Ha ha.] The other thing that has been challenging is that he wants me to force my daughter Reese, to play with him, ALL the time. And Reese will happily play with him for 10-15 minutes [is that short? It feels like a decade....] when suddenly she'll change her mind and say, "I don't want to play with you!" and leaves the room. Even if it's her room. And he SCREAMS for me, "MOM!!! REESE SAID SHE DOESN'T WANT TO PLAY WITH ME!!!!!!!" 

Well, now I'm teaching the 3-year old how to politely express that she may want to play alone, and then the 4-year old that it's OKAY if his sister doesn't want to play. It's just felt like a lot....and tomorrow he'll be super obedient, sweet as pie, and I'll want to eat his face off with kisses. And as I'm sitting here typing, I'm realizing that I don't really like the word 'bad.' Today wasn't bad. It was just hard. It was a lot of saying their names, sitting them down, mediating, teaching, discipling, and mothering. But that's what I want to do. Is to mother. And to teach them, and help them, and be here for them...so really what I'm realizing, is that days like today ultimately just teach ME something, the mom, the grownup, the adult in the room. 

I learned that even in the bad, there's nowhere I'd rather be. 

But now I want to hear from you: 

-What ages and stages were the most challenging for you as a mom? The two's, three's, four's, teen's, twenties....HA! 
-Specifically, do you remember when your kids were three and four? Did your kid have a "threenager" stage? What do you remember about four? 
-What do we have to look forward to about five? Because I'm literally depressed over the fact that my first BABY is turning FIVE in just two months. And he reminds me daily. It's good, right? 
-What have been your FAVORITE stages of your kids' childhood? If you say ALL of it, I may slap you. 
-Next, share ANY single thing you want to share: the good days, the bad, the funniest most recent memory, the most horrific...I want to hear them! Comment below or contact me via the contact page! 

I Love You to the Moon and Back and I Love You

Print by: Chris Diggs with Haymaker Collective Design Studio

At all times of the day, on all accounts, my daughter wants to know where I am. And if I have plans to leave the house, she wants to know, "Are you coming home? Are you coming back? Will you check on me when you get home?" When it's time for me to go, she's on my heels at the front door yelling, "I love you, Mom! I love you to the moon and back and I love you, I love you, I LOVE YOU!" Most of the time I laugh and tell her, "Reese, I LOVE you." And she usually doesn't stop repeating that phrase until I have pulled away in my car, her words singing over and over in my head as I drive. 

The same is true at bedtime. My husband and I rotate who puts who down, and if I'm tucking Pierson in, she anxiously makes sure that Asa will leave her door open so that Mommy can come in and hug her. But it's never just a hug. She wants me to sing 'Sunshine,' hug her a certain way, and she shouts, "I love you, Mommy! I love you to the moon and back and I love you, I love you, I LOVE YOU!" as I close the door behind me. 

Any moms reading this feel like there are days that your heart literally ACHES, because it's throbbing with love so intensely? 

Today is one of those days for me. You know how Facebook likes to bring up all these super heart wrenching and emotional articles on your newsfeed? It's like the computer literally KNOWS that you're already on the verge of tears and that you need just one article to be pushed over to the breakdown side. So today as I scroll,  I choose the one about the sweet and innocent five year old boy who was stolen away by cancer. And I'll read every single word, feeling my heart rate jump through my chest with each one; "110" my Apple Watch read when I finished. And then the tears came. And I lie in my bed, pulling the covers over my face, to actually plead with God to be spared from scenarios like this. But for some of you, this is your REALITY. Cancer, or another life threatening disease, is beating on your ACTUAL door. You stare it in the face daily. You pray hourly, for just one day, for grace to be given, for healing to occur, for relief and peace to be offered. 

And I am reminded that I need to slow the hell down. 

Don't you dare close the door on your daughter who is urgently shouting out her love to you! Don't tell her to be quiet or that she doesn't need to say it over and over as you leave her room for the night. Don't take for granted, that your children need you. That they don't just need you, but that they actually WANT you. To be by your side, to hold your hand, be picked up by you. To hear you say in return, "I love YOU to the moon and back and I love you, I love you, I love you!" Don't be so easily annoyed, agitated, stressed out, overwhelmed. Don't TAKE them for granted.

Because as you blink, the thief Time, is closing in. If I am a betting woman, then I bet in a few years my daughter will have forgotten her incessant need to be with me. She'll be in school, surrounded by hundreds of elementary students and her new focus will be getting good grades, experimenting in sports, making friends, and figuring out WHO she is. And if in a few years she is still attached to my hip, then it'll be a few years past that. And I'll be talking to all of my friends wondering, "Where did the time go?" 

Some of you have lost a child. Or you've gotten close. Or you ARE close. And my heart is with you right now asking God WHY. I don't get it, I don't understand, I don't like it, I can't fathom it, and it just hurts. Please know that I am trying to NOT take my healthy children for granted. And some days I will write posts ranting about tired I am, how my back hurts from the toys I've picked up and the house I've spent hours cleaning. I'll write about how they exhaust me, or that I don't know how single mothers do it (because I DON'T know how and I think you're really fricking amazing if that is your reality). I'll vent about my daughter's neediness and her three-year old sassafras, and I'll say things like, "Lord HELP me," when making mention of the two humans I've been called to raise. But I want you to know that I see you. I hear you. And literal tears fall as I can mention some of you by name who are in a VERY difficult season of trials and tribulation: 

My cousins, Amanda and Mike with baby Jada, who just had a Thymus transplant. The hospital has been their second home, all the meanwhile they're raising Jada's big brother Odyn. They have done it all with grace, as they share their story and constantly lift their family's life up in prayer. 

My very dear friend Andrea and her family, as they help their son Drew fight his B Cell Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. Their struggle has been so real, and this three-year old is near and dear to my heart as I've photographed him every year since he was a newborn! He has begun the "Delayed Intensification" phase of chemo, and needs a ton of prayer [as do his amazing parents and big sister, Amelia]. 

As a mom of two young ones, there are days that I feel more worn out than usual. And sometimes it takes heart wrenching Facebook articles to remind me that I need to suck it up and do my job with way more happiness than I sometimes do. To those of you hurting, questioning, fighting, and battling the things that you are, please know that I am praying. If you are new here or you're going through something I don't know, don't *ever* hesitate to e-mail and fill me in so that I can add you to my prayers. 

To my children, no matter how healthy or sick you are, I love you to the moon and back and I love you, I love you, I love you. May I never forget these toddler phrases, or the way their voice sounds when they say them. May we also never forget to lift one another up in prayer and to be each other's arms wide open. 

The Tortuous Twenties and a Big Cheers to 29

Tortuous: full of twists and turns; which is a REALLY great way to describe my twenties. Birthdays are always a super reflective time for me, and this one is no different. Turning twenty-nine, how did that happen? I remember turning twenty-SEVEN like it was yesterday; and feeling like I had all the time in the world to turn (heaven forbid) THIRTY. Well, time is flying by perhaps quicker than ever, and I have one year left in my twenties. So, how have have the 'twenties' been? 

I turned twenty-one just three months after saying "I do" to my sweet and loving husband. In my wildest dreams, I wouldn't have planned on marrying so young, but God writes the love story, amen? Some of my happiest memories are when we lived in our first apartment on Fourth Street in Old Louisville. We had the whole first floor and I remember thinking that two bedroom space was HUGE. With it's dark [and dingy] hardwoods, the bars over the windows [yes, for real], and the beautiful giant windows that overlooked the street. We had NO back yard, but the dogs adapted well and we went on walks almost daily around Central Park and St. James Court, which was also the first place my husband told me he loved me when we were dating. We were so poor. But every Thursday we managed to afford cheap Chinese takeout and watched Grey's Anatomy on the couch, surrounded by the comfort of lit candles and giant dogs; just happy. We remember a couple times needing to have our parents bail out us financially, but not once did they ever complain or give us a hard time for being so young and unprepared.

Around twenty-three I started to have a mild panic over the fact that I desperately wanted to be pregnant and have a baby, but for my whole life, had been in denial about that. I would cry when I had a period and when my friend's were getting pregnant and sweet Asa said, "You know you kinda have to come off the PILL for this to happen?" So I did. And five months later, Pierson was conceived. A baby at age twenty-four, and again at twenty-five (y'all know that was NOT planned), it felt kind of crazy to be done having kids in my mid twenties; still does actually. Sometimes I'm like, "Aw MAN! I could so have a third!" but at this point, that would a.) be a miracle and b.) I really believe God designed this plan just how it is. Unless He decides to surprise the heck out of us in the years to come with a dream of adopting or a miracle of conception, ha. (I wouldn't put it past Him!) 

We bought our first house before Pierson came, and we've been here for six years. That too feels surreal that we've been home owners for so long, and that we were SO blessed by the one we chose. (I think it chose us though, in all honesty.) The walks we did around this park as we prayed to God for guidance and direction, and the kneeling in the front entryway, with the house entirely empty, asking for His protection and will with what would happen here. And look! We've brought TWO babies home to this house! We've painted and added some nice touches to the backyard, we've had a garden for years, and the kids live for swimming in giant kiddy pools in the summertime. 

But it hasn't been all sunshine and roses, and there were some ROUGH awakenings in my twenties. Like when I started doubting my marriage and was turning to other people for validation in who I was. When I listened to the world telling me that if I wasn't happy, just quit, because it's all about me. When my body went through years of hormonal imbalances that then led to emotional, physical, and spiritual ones.  

But all of those then negative and heart wrenching experiences led to some really amazing awakenings. Like the sun beaming down after a terrible (and long) storm, I began to see the shift in who I was becoming. 

Marriage: It's not always smothered in butterflies and fireworks of romantic explosions. Every single day, you change as an individual. Your husband isn't who he was when he married you and you are not the same woman. The annoyances will change as time goes on; roles and expectations shift, and hey, let's just be real: what you once used to like in the bedroom, well maybe you won't anymore! A marriage takes work, a heck ton of communication, and choices, always, that should conclude with putting your spouses needs above yours. I've never heard anyone say that it's easy, because it's not. But marriage is the greatest blessing of my life and my husband will always come first.

Friendships: they come and go in seasons. I've realized (finally) that if a friendship isn't working; if it's not a mutual give and take, that's okay. Sometimes if it leaves, LET IT. My happiness doesn't depend on other people investing or not investing in me. Don't waste hours of life wondering what someone else is thinking (or not thinking) about you. There's an ebb and flow with friendships, and I'm holding tighter to the ones that matter. That being said, I believe in fighting for what and who you believe in. I learned wonders from the book Uninvited, and if you haven't yet read that, I really think you need to.

Self-Image: forever a give and take of giving myself grace. Our bodies are continuously changing. Our skin, muscle loss or gain, weight fluctuation, stretch marks, spider veins; LOTS of things, all the time. I've learned that my number one motivation is to be healthy so that hopefully, I can live a long and healthy life. I want to be able to watch my grandkids be born and play with them. Drinking lots of water is something I'm terrible at, but I'm trying. And working out is also something I've never consistently done until the last couple of years. Telling myself that I'm strong, because I am, is crucial. I never want my children to hear me verbally express dislike for myself and Asa and I refuse to say the words fat or big or ugly. I'm not thrilled with every inch of myself, but I leave those conversations for the privacy of Asa and I; not my son and daughter. I ran the furthest I've ran (7 miles) at twenty-eight. I don't know if I'll be able to continue running (I hope to) but regardless, I was completely shocked that I could do that and felt incredibly empowered. Twenty-eight was a GOOD year. [Update since I'm behind on posting this, I ran NINE miles at twenty-nine! Ha!! The day after my 29th birthday, I actually RAN nine miles without stopping. Isn't God awesome?!]

On love: I talked about marriage and friendships, but I learned a lot about love as a whole during my twenties. The biggest part, is that I AM LOVED. The word Beloved has become one of my very favorites and is near and dear to my heart [hence my Beloved Woman SERIES], but really and truly, I know that I am a very loved woman. As a daughter, sister, wife, mother, friend; God is so good. And I know that He whispers to me daily, "My dear, you are MY beloved, and I created you to be JUST who you are." I am so thankful for this lesson and while I am still learning and definitely growing in resting in this love--it was here in my twenties that I have found so much peace. 

Here's to a new year, y'all. Some of you reading may scoff (she's only 29??) and others of you are thinking, "oh goodness, I have SO much longer until I am that old!" Ha ha!! Life is weird. And funny. And good. And I love all of you. Thanks for celebrating another year of life with me. The night of my birthday, I plan on playing laser tag with my closest friends, and then ending the night w/ food and a campfire in our backyard. It's basically a 12-year old's birthday party, but hey, don't be jeally. 

Thanks to my amazing photographer husband for taking these of the me and the kids. And thanks to one of my VERY best friends, Tim Burri, for my fabulous gold balloons!