Humphrey's Purpose: Cheers to Eleven, Old Man!

To all the dog lovers out there, well, I think you'll be able to relate to this post quite well. I've once been called "the most sentimental person ever," and because I fully embrace that characteristic, yes, I am writing a blog post dedicated to my now eleven year old dog. 

Humphrey Bogart, the dog that most of you know VERY well, turns eleven years old TODAY. When my feet hit the floor I saw him sleeping on my side of the bed. I dropped to the ground beside him and kissed his face a thousand times, telling him, "Happy birthday, Buddy!" My daughter Reese woke soon after and excitedly reminded her brother that today is Humphrey's birthday! I had to rush for a work meeting, but as I left, my husband and the kids were singing him the birthday song. Celebrating pets birthdays may seem kind of strange, but if you're anything like me, than your pets are pretty up there in equality to your kids. (Okay, THAT may be a stretch...I am not fully equating our animals with our human children, however, I will say that MY love for all of them is pretty dang close in measure.) 

I was introduced to Humphrey back in October of 2007. Growing up, I had a white Labrador Retriever named Holly, and I knew by Facebook stalking (you all do it) that the guy I was into (my now husband) had a Chocolate Lab. I was thrilled to spend a day with both, as that guy had invited me to meet at the coffee shop he worked at for a hot beverage. I walked out the back glass doors where his back was towards me. His dog however, saw me in an instant, and hopped up, greeting me with massive paws on my chest. He almost knocked me to the ground and I remember being so appalled at this--MY Lab, was perfect. Like, literally though, she turned herself into my brother's service dog, and basically never left his or my parents side. She was quiet and sweet, never licked, and lord have mercy, NEVER jumped! (Basically she was half human, we are all convinced, and her other half was angel.) I knew then, Humphrey was NOT part human nor part angel. Little did I know though....my heart would be transformed. 

Humphrey got kicked out of his house shortly after this meet-up, because he had 'bit' the mailman. Asa ("that guy") was living with his parents and therefore, so was his dog. Well, Humphrey never actually DID bite the mailman, he excitedly had jumped on him and left BARELY a sliver of a red scratch. Regardless, that was taken very seriously and the humane society demanded that Humphrey be quarantined completely for two weeks. Asa's parents weren't mean or anything, but they just didn't exactly want them on their premises anymore. Before we decided that he could live with me [obviously Asa and I moved QUICK, because we had spent every single day together SINCE that coffee date, and I had in that time frame got my OWN puppy--our Golden Retriever, Elsa]; Humphrey did something kind of dumb. It was a Sunday morning, we had just got back to Asa's parents from church, and we saw Humphrey running down the driveway towards us to greet us. The funny (not funny?) thing IS, is that Humphrey had started the "quarantine" and had been locked in Asa's bedroom for the short couple of hours that we would be away. He has always been ASA'S DOG, and made this abundantly clear to all of us when we noticed he had busted out of the basement bedroom window, in order to GET to Asa who pulled into the driveway. He didn't have a scratch on him that day and wagged his tail, greeting us how he always did--with an over abundance of pure energy. 

We decided that day, I would take him and keep him at my house, where he could hang out all day with Elsa. She quickly became his best friend and long lost companion--his disposition changed immensely in the coming weeks and months; though that may be largely due to how much more exercise he was getting? Asa and I went on walks daily with our dogs--taking them to open fields and letting them run ramped. Humphrey has always been the extreme, and Elsa has always been the quiet graceful one-- together, they make the most amazing duo. 

Since I probably can't write one single post talking about all ELEVEN of Humphrey's years, I know I need to wrap it up. In June of 2011, he gave us quite the scare when he and I were playing fetch. Throwing a stick and him catching it completely wrong resulted in a punctured artery in his tongue and LOTS of blood. That moment was one of many that I realized how THANKFUL I am for Humphrey and how much I freeking love his soul. 

Even when, for instance, he ate the entire Christmas ham. Or when he tried to burn Asa's parents house down by managing to turn on their stove when he hopped up for leftovers. Or when he ate a twenty pound bag of dog treats and we witnessed the results of that ALL night long. There have been quite a few (more than we can count) mishaps with this dog, but even and especially with those memories, he is the most lovable and protective friend.

We've learned this summer, that his neck has a disc that is showing wear and tear from age. Our vet explained it to us like one of us having a rotator cuff issue and it causing immense arm pain--Humphrey's neck was so sore and he was in SO much pain; he would holler out and was hardly able to move at all. Luckily it doesn't seem to be too major, and with the nerve meds he's been on and anti-inflammatories, he is already back to his normal self. See a trend here? He's just amazing. He is still on medication (I am guessing will always be?) but is no longer limping, is playing with his favorite ball, and goes out back to sunbathe on some of these incredibly hot summer afternoons. He begs 24/7, licks our faces, and his number one priority is being with us, wherever we are. 

Asa shared this sweet birthday post on Facebook today with a photo I took a few days ago: 
"This old man is one of my oldest and most loyal friends. Today he turns 11. Humphrey became part of my family when it was just he and I. I was battling depression, and had very little direction in life. He never seemed to care about those things. Humphrey was with me as I built a life with Ashley. He has protected us through 4 moves, and this week a 5th. He has been the gentle giant to both of my not so gentle children. Happy Birthday to great big lug of friend! Praying for many more happy returns!"

I feel like this sums (granted, a very LONG summary) our sweetheart of a dog pretty well. He was Asa's first, to walk beside him through some pretty dark days, and quickly jumped into the rest of our hearts. Michigan trips, lake swims, hikes, and more, he's been there for them all. I'm excited (and admittedly also nervous) to see where the months and next years take us. Eleven is a big birthday, and this guy deserves the world! Oh, and if you haven't noticed where I stand now, ten years since meeting him, I know now that Humphrey is also half human, half angel ;) 

The Company Store gifted Humphrey with an amazing dog bed for this birthday. Made of memory foam, it is easier on his joints, provides extra comfort, and is great for older dogs like this sweet man. We've washed the cover several times already (because hello shedding Labs), and it looks just like the day we received it. We are so grateful, and I think Humphrey is too! [Full disclosure: ALL the other animals sleep and cuddle on it as well. Ha! It's a hit for all of them!] Thank you, Company Store!! 

Clearly from above, boxes are currently our life at the moment. We are excited to get in to our new house and for the next pages of our story to be written! Thanks for following along, and if you wish Humphrey a happy birthday, I'll be sure to tell him! We are cooking him a burger now and about to sing together as family. 
 

xox

The Case of the No Naps

Moms, have you literally forgotten everything that happened with your first born child, now that you have multiple? Because I promise you, I remember almost nothing. First steps, I know they happened the day before his first birthday. I remember he was 25 months old when he was completely potty trained (day-time that is). I remember he was the easiest babe to break of the binky. And I'm fairly certain he was the most perfect sleeper, ever

But that can't be 100% accurate. Because I also remember texting my sweet friend and soul sister Jerrica with a million sleep and nap questions; she too, was a "Babywise Mom." That means we scheduled our kiddos and had a pretty good grip on when they would sleep and when they wouldn't. I know that he napped like an angel (babysitters, DID HE?!?!) up until just recently, and he just turned FIVE. 

But if you were really asking me to remember all these details....well, I can't! I'm currently in this stage of nap regressions with our dear sweet daughter. She turns four in two very short months, and she is a monkey see monkey do kinda gal. (Lord, help.) She knows that her big brother doesn't nap daily anymore, and constantly asks, "Well, is Pierson going to play quietly in his room or will he be resting in BED?????" Telling her not to worry about her brother and to just worry about herself, well, that doesn't fly. 

I've always wanted to be the sweet and soften spoken mom. The one who never yells or who doesn't fly off the handle. The mom who gently lulls her anti-napping toddler to sleep. Or who is extremely patient with said toddler when she doesn't even lay down to TRY to sleep. But guys, I fail at this *MISERABLY.* There's like: strike one, strike two, strike three, strike ZERO, NOW I'M SCREAMING, and no, I haven't given too many chances because I'm totally exaggerating here to NOT make myself seem like a total lunatic. And now I'm sitting over here all like, "HOW is she ever going to nap in preschool?? They SAID that ALL the kids lie on their mats and just sleep. But there is no way in the h-e-double-hockey-sticks that this will happen?!?!?!" First of all, Reese turns four a month after she'll start preschool, which means she will be four in the three's room. Surely there'll be other four year olds present who are in the same situation as her? But to say I'm a little worried and stressed over this thought is kinda an understatement. 

My husband likes to reassure me (by not reassuring me) that it just won't be my problem. She'll be in preschool, not ME, and there is really absolutely nothing that I can do.

Okay...............thanks?

I am betting there will be like 300 of you who tell me that your child has never napped. So all I'm going to say here is that I am SO SORRY. I really wouldn't mind the no nap thing, IF I wasn't starting back to work in three weeks, where she'll be in brand new circumstances and settings. Her grandmother will watch her two days in our home, and I'm also not looking forward to how Reese is going to test those buttons on those days, either. Maybe those will just HAVE to be her 'no napping' days? But how do you do that.........? 

Has anyone else ever admitted that raising toddlers is a crapshoot? Who am I kidding, it's a shit shoot. (Sorry, Mom!) It's just a total mess where there are days you have no idea what you're doing, WHY you're having these battles, where you haven't looked in a mirror all day, and you are drinking coffee at two-thirty in the afternoon INSTEAD of lunch, because you just want to sit and BE. I sound like I'm complaining big time don't I? But did you know on the other side of this fence that I am sitting, there is this woman who is about to cry big giant puddles of tears because BOTH of her children are starting school in three weeks?? 

I looked at my five year in the car today in my rearview mirror and saw him just sitting all properly in his booster seat, looking out the window with his insanely long legs dangling off the seat. And in that moment, I got all choked up. This KID, my first born, is FIVE. And my daughter?? The one who is currently undressing herself in bed and getting really frustrated that she can't put the shirt back on correctly (yes, daughter, I can SEE YOU)--well, she's my BABY. I've always called her my baby baby, and here we are, approaching her FOURTH birthday. 

A couple realizations: 
-I'm getting old
-and motherhood is a constant lesson, teaching me ALL the things about selflessness, SELFISHness, grace, laughter, sorrow, and love. 

The case of the no naps have officially arrived. But I suppose this too, shall pass. 

*Dear daughter, my baby baby, who is NOW currently upstairs throwing books off your bed...I love you more than there are words. Thank YOU for still choosing to love ME, even when dear old mom sometimes loses it.*

 

 

 

Let's Talk about CHANGE!

Alright y'all, welcome back. Oh wait, it has just been ME who has MIA. AAAAHH!!! The last post I wrote about moving was back in June, the day before we found out the very exciting news that we GOT THE HOUSE! Many of you keep up with me via Instagram and Facebook, but for those who may not, yup; we finally had an offer accepted and will be moving to our brand new home July 28! 

But the new house isn't the only thing that's going to be a change, we have SO MANY things in this current season. Honestly I'm really hoping that I can just keep trucking and go with the flow. I've never been someone who panics over change, but at the same time, I do love consistency. Photography speaking, change means inspiration and often new lines of work--aka things that really excite me. The same goes for blogging, when I have new things on the horizon and different partnerships and collaborations, that's always super exciting! But it all kind of dawned on me late last night: 

We are moving to a brand new house, in a brand new part of town, Reese will be going to preschool which neither child has ever done, Pierson starts kindergarten, and I will be in a brand new position working with brand new co-workers. 

Oh hey, month of CHANGE!

I'll clarify a couple things--I'm not switching school locations, but I am switching floors which in any teacher's case, is kinda a big deal. That means people I'm not familiar working with, new types of students, and in this event, brand new grades. I work in a children's psychiatric hospital, and instead of having the inpatient kids, I'll be working with students who are part of the day program. For the past six years I have had a 3-5th grade classroom, now I will have half of the day with kindergarten and first graders, and the second half with 3-5th. While this is a HUGE change for me, I am also excited for it. I'll get a shift in the middle of the day and I'lll be teaching mostly Language Arts to the older kids which is my FAVORITE subject EVER. 

None of these changes are bad, honest to God. I'm excited to be in a better part of town, excited to be a short run away from a horse farm, and I'm excited to watch BOTH of our kids grow and learn in their schools. The house we are going to is B E A U T I F U L and while it may not be our DREAM home and where we will plant roots forever, it is absolutely wonderful. I am excited for the next pages of our story to be written there and I'm excited to be able to document it here in this space with you all. 

I also have some really exciting upcoming brand collaborations that I am pumped to fill y'all in on a little later. I'm discovering my passions within photography and learning a lot about myself through that. While I set out thinking that I would have to shoot weddings in order to 'make money,' I don't think that's necessarily the case, at least for me. I'm working with some big brands and shooting more interiors and spaces than I ever have and I am LOVING it!! Please give me all the beautifully designed houses and spaces and I will photograph them all day looooong. Working with interior designers, commercial spaces, etc.; guys! It's so FUN! 

Alright, I'd love to keep chatting your ear (eyes??) off, but I need to continue packing and de-cluttering my life. What season are YOU currently in? Is it a season of rest? Are YOU moving? Switching jobs? Quitting jobs? Shifting your focus? Having a baby? Fill me IN! Leave a comment below, I always love hearing YOUR updates too! 

Happy changing everyone! Stay tuned and if you know me personally, please bear with me in this current insanely busy chapter.

Be Willing to Celebrate Your Beauty

My entire life I have never been one to get too much into makeup or skin care products. Yes, I wear makeup, but that daily routine consists of a little concealer, eyeliner, mascara, and some foundation powder. The {kind of} gross truth, is that I've also *never* had a skin care routine, and rarely was even washing my face before bed. When I asked a friend about her regimen, her response was, "Ashley, you MIGHT want to start washing the makeup off your face before bed....just a thought." Okay, okay, I finally have realized that I need to redo how I take care of my skin. 

As I approach thirty, I'm not going to lie to you and say that I don't care that I am aging. The truth is, I DO care. Where did my twenties go?!? Why didn't I appreciate my smooth and line-less skin in those years? There is nothing wrong with getting older, I believe that. And I wouldn't go back and turn the clock, even if I could, because all of my years hold massive stories of wisdom and growth. But I'm discovering now more than ever, that without good skin care products, I'm also not really doing my skin any favors.

Willing Beauty approached me at THE perfect time, because I had literally been searching for something GREAT to try. As I said, I never had a good regimen to follow; a routine that I could get in the hang of repeating. Which is why I am LOVING the HY+5 products that they sent me. The regimen includes: 

Do Over Nourishing Cleanser

Two times a day, I use the cleanser. Yup, you got it, I finally have gotten in the rhythm of washing my face before getting into bed, and again in the morning when I wake. I don't wear makeup daily, especially now that it's summer; but I still like to make sure I get the daily grime off and this cleanser feels so good on my face.

Daydream Illuminating Day Moisturizer

Would you believe me if I told you I have NEVER used a moisturizer? Well wait, that's not 100% accurate. Back in my high school days I had terrible cystic acne and went through this god awful strong dosage of Accutane. My skin was so red and dry, for a short number of months I used a generic moisturizer. But literally never since then, and that's been what, fourteen years ago?! This moisturizer from Willing Beauty is NOT heavy, and my biggest perk, it doesn't leave my skin oily. 

Partner in Time Age-Defying Night Serum

This product along with the night cream, are my two favorites. It was designed to improve the elasticity of skin as well as to diminish the appearance of fine lines, After two+ weeks of using this system, my skin feels firmer and definitely smoother!

Get Set SPF 30 Tinted Primer

A primer that I put on before applying makeup, AND, if I don't wear any that day, I've been applying anyway. Hello, I live in Kentucky and with our incredibly hot and sunny days, I'm all about protecting my face. Like I've said, I haven't been good about this until now--I really think it's because I have this whole regimen that I've gotten better about caring for my face. I lay out the products on my bedside table, and it's just easy to follow the steps and remember to do them daily. 

Sleepover Replenishing Night Cream

I apply this cream immediately following the night serum, and every morning when I wake, I swear my face feels SO freekin' soft. This replenishing cream consists of moisture attracting molecules and stimulates collagen. 

You can read more about Willing Beauty's story here, and I really encourage you to do so. While they gifted me with my products, this post is not sponsored; I just love them THAT much! I am definitely hooked on the HY+5 challenge, and firmly believe that these will be long term products for me. Anyone else not the greatest at self care? Well, I say it's time we change that, don't you?? Be willing to celebrate your beauty, inside and out!

**Thank you, Willing Beauty for these amazing products!!**